Broken Heart!

*A BR0KEN HEART is when you actually refuse to get out of bed in the morning because you are afraid of the reality that awaits you.* *A BR0KEN HEART is when you think about the individual that broke your heart constantly. You reminisce the "Good Times" almost as if the "Bad Times" never existed.* * a BR0KEN HEART is when you are crying yourself to sleep every night and yet crying more and more each morning.* *A BR0KEN HEART is the unforgettable smell of his shirt that sits in that empty box; stowed away.* *A BR0KEN HEART is the cold shattering feeling you receive when you hear the syllables of his name.* *A BR0KEN HEART is glancing at the pictures of the two of you, and then quickly turning your attention to something else, to avoid your tears.* *A BR0KEN HEART is re-reading his ancient letters and putting away the jewelry that he once bought for you.* *A BR0KEN HEART is secretly wanting to run back to him and secretly wanting to just be loved by him again.* *A BR0KEN HEART is asking desperately for just one last chance with the only person responsible for your loneliness.* *A BR0KEN HEART is pretending to not care what his friends are saying about you.* *A BR0KEN HEART is forcing yourself to hang up the phone after you have dialed the first three digits to his number.* *A BR0KEN HEART is screaming and begging for a second chance inside.* *A BR0KEN HEART is the emptiness and heart-wrenching feeling you encounter when you see him with his new love.* *A BR0KEN HEART is knowing that no matter what you do or say to yourself, you can't fool your heart into believing that you will in fact "Be Alright."* *A BR0KEN HEART is seeing him and even though it may be the hardest thing that you have ever had to do but, you decide to walk away.* *A BR0KEN HEART is listening to that one song that makes you break down, over and over again.* *A BR0KEN HEART sometimes means: Not wanting to go on.*

Oprah Said About Men!

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find whatmakes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behaviour. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is two way street. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone complimentary... not supplementary. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Share this with other women and men (just so they know)... You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare

Appearance

She was loved In the morning she got up, As she did every morning, Applied the lipstick that covered her swollen lips, She applied the blush, The blush that hid the scars that wounded her She remembered how she was loved When she put on her gold eye shadow, The eye shadow that covered her grief, The grief that they didn’t see Was she so loved? She applied the mascara The mascara that hid the tears, The tears that wanted to flow from her eyes like a river Did they love her? She combed her dark hair The hair, it was as dark as the nights sky She put on her jeans Then the top that went with it No they didn’t understand. So she went to them that day She smiled and was loved again But with her smile she cried She smiled and hid her ocean of pain They didn’t see, just loved Her cloud of torment, was not visible The makeup, the clothes, the smile It was all there, just as any other day They loved They loved as much as always. Because she was tall As tall as the highest tower To them she was real But she was an actress in both worlds In her own and theirs as well Today she dressed for her part in theirs And left no trace of the other As she smiled Because she was loved

HOPE

Is there a world without a sun where all light shines through the eyes and all warmth is felt through the heart, Perhaps a place where the moon isnt so distant and reality is more the opposite of sanity, Is there a place where even the truth lie's and ideals do not promise us an iron cage, Can there be cause without will in such a world, or maybe I should stop hoping?

How to catch Lies?

Watching body language in addition to what is spoken might just save you from being a victim of fraud, or it could help you figure out when somebody’s being genuine. The police do this during an interrogation. You have to learn the little facial and body expressions that can help you distinguish a lie from the truth. Here are some steps and tips to do so. 1. Learn to recognize deflections. Usually when people are lying, they will tell stories that are true but are deliberately aimed at not answering the question you asked. If a person responds to the question “Did you ever hit your wife?” with an answer such as “I love my wife, why would I do that?”, the suspect is technically telling a truth, but they are avoiding answering your original question, which usually means they’re lying. 2. Mind exaggerated details. See if they are telling you too much, like “ My mom is living in France, isn’t it nice there? Don’t you like the Eiffel tower? It’s so clean there.” Too many details may tip you off to their desperation to get you to believe them. 3. We have illustrators, and manipulators. Illustrators are a sign of telling the truth, this is when you are using your hand gestures to talk. moving your hands while you are talking is a sign of telling the truth. We also have manipulators. These, are the opposite of illustrators. An example of a manipulator can be playing with your wrist-watch, your jewelry, pulling on your ear lobe, etc. People who behave this way tend to be hiding something. The last, commonly unknown sign of hiding something is reptile tissue, most people have a reptile tissue in their nose, and it itches when you’re hiding something. But, before you assume that the person is hiding something, please establish a base line. 4. Base Line: A base line is what someone acts like when they are not lying. You have to get a base line before you proceed with anything. Imagine you have a itch on your nose ever since you got out of bed. And someone thinks you are hiding something because you scratch your nose when answering a question… oops. What the person should have done is establish a baseline. To establish a baseline, you need to see the person when they aren’t lying. Try asking what their name is, and what they do for a living. 5. Look out for micro-expressions. Micro-expressions are split second facial expressions that flash on a person’s face for a less than a 25th of a second and reveal the person’s true emotion underneath their facade. Some people may be naturally sensitive to them, but almost anybody can easily train to be able to detect microexpressions. Put focus to the upper and lower eyelids, the corner of the eyes, the mouth and the muscles surrounding the mouth, the eyebrows and forehead. 6. Shaking hands… When you meet the person who you think is deceiving you, shake their hand. Take note of the temperature. When you are sure they are lying to you, pretend to be leaving and quickly grab their hand for a “Good-Bye” Handshake. If the temperature is colder, they are fearful. 7. Notice the person’s eye movements. Contrary to popular belief, a liar does not always avoid eye contact. Humans naturally break eye contact and look at non-moving objects to help them focus and remember. Liars may deliberately make eye contact to seem more sincere. You can usually tell if a person is remembering something or making something up based on their eye’s movements. When someone is remembering details, their eyes move to the right (your right). When someone is making something up, their eyes move to the left. It’s usually reversed for lefties. (although not always true.) 8. Be aware of their emotional responses Timing and duration tends to be off when someone is lying. If you ask someone a question and they respond directly after the question, there is a chance that the person is lying. This can be because they have rehearsed the answer, or they’re already thinking about the answer just to get it over with and move forward. A delayed answer can be a sign of lying. To tell the truth takes 2 parts of your brain at most, however to lie takes 6 parts of your brain. If the person has a long story then you can ask them to tell it backwards. Liars have trouble telling stories backwards, because in their mind they have rehearsed it forwards, but not backwards. And, as with smiling, facial expressions of a poor liar will be limited to the mouth area. Pay close attention to the person’s reaction to your questions. A liar will often feel uncomfortable and turn their head or body away, or even subconsciously put an object between the two of you. Also, while an innocent person would go on the offensive (usually responding with anger, which will usually be revealed in a microexpression directly after you say you don’t believe them), a guilty person will often go immediately on the defensive (usually by saying something to reassure their facts, such as deflections). 9. Listen for a subtle delay in responses to questions. An honest answer comes quickly from memory. Lies require a quick mental review of what they have told others to avoid inconsistency and to make up new details as needed. However, when people look up to remember things, it does not necessarily mean that they are lying. 10. Be conscious of their usage of words. Verbal expression can give many clues as to whether a person is lying, such as: Using/repeating your own exact words when answering a question Not using contractions Avoiding direct statements or answers (deflections) Speaking excessively in an effort to convince Speaking in a monotonous tone Speaking in muddled sentences Vocal pitch rising Using classic qualifiers such as “I’m only going to say this once…” Using humor and sarcasm to avoid the subject Using Deflections (beating around the bush, not answering the question.) 11. Allow silence to enter the conversation. If they’re lying, they will become uncomfortable if you stare at them for a while with a look of disbelief. If they’re telling the truth, they will usually become angry or just frustrated (lips pressed together, brows down, upper eyelid tensed and pulled down to glare). 12. Change the subject quickly. While an innocent person would be confused by the sudden shift in the conversation and may try to return to the previous subject, a liar will be relieved and welcome the change. You may see the person become more relaxed and less defensive. 13. Watch his or her throat. A person may constantly be either trying to lubricate their throat when he/she lies by swallowing or clearing their throat to relieve the tension built up. A person’s voice can also be a good lie indicator; they may suddenly start talking faster or slower than normal, or their tension may result in a higher-pitched speaking tone. See baseline info 14. Check the facts. If you have the means, check the validity of what the liar is saying. A skilled liar might give some reason why you shouldn’t talk to the person who could confirm or deny a story. Perhaps the liar will infer that the person is particularly favourable towards the liar, or that the person would have little time for you. These are probably lies themselves, so might be worthwhile overcoming your reluctance and to check with the person you’ve been warned against. 15. Judge the character. Most people tell the truth most of the time, and will cherish their reputation. Liars will ’sail close to the wind’ – they’ll artificially bolster their reputation so that they seem more credible or desirable than they actually are. If you overhear a version of an anecdote that seems wrong, listen to those alarm bells – it might be a liar. If someone takes the time out to ingratiate themselves with you out of the blue, it’s very flattering, but you have to ask, why are they doing that? If John rubbishes or smears people more than normal, John is possibly putting in the groundwork so the audience are more receptive to John, and less receptive to the people who John has lied to – they’re discredited before they can say ‘John is a liar’. Note - Some people are extremely experienced or even professional liars. He or she has told their made up story so many times that they are actually believable, getting all their days, dates and times down perfectly! Sometimes, you may need to simply accept that you can’t catch every lie all the time. If you do catch a lie, don’t reveal it to the liar; they will just adjust their story. Once you know one thing that is not true, you can use it to find more of the net of lies, and other nets of lies. Then decide which points you reveal and to whom

A Story

Deciding on the Destinies of Others: Malba Tahan tells the story of a man who met an angel in the desert and gave him water. “ I am the angel of death and I came to get you,” said the angel. “But as you were kind, I will lend you the Book of Destiny for five minutes; you may change what you want.” The angel gave the man the book. As he was leafing through its pages, the man began reading about the lives of his neighbors. And he got discontented, “ These people don’t deserve such nice things,” he said. With the pen in hand, he began worsening the lives of each one. Finally, he reached the page of his destiny. He saw his tragic end, but as he prepared to change it, the book disappeared. Five minutes had already passed. And right there, the angel took the man’s soul.

Times of Crises

Times of crises r both dangerous & important. Dangerous for those who have no courage to explore new dimensions of life. They are bound to disintegrate into different kinds of madness, because their mind was made by society. Now with society disintegrating, the mind cannot remain; its roots are in society. It is constantly nourished by society-- and now that nourishment is disappearing. Because society is disintegrating, a great suspicion, a doubt that was never before, is bound to arise in individuals. And if they were just obedient people who have never gone beyond any limit that society has decided, who have always been respected, honourable citizens, they will immediately go mad. They will start committing suicide, they will start jumping from high buildings. In times of crises, the danger is for those who have enjoyed the times when society was settled, when there were no problems. These were the people who had enjoyed the obedience of the mind, and these are going to be the sufferers. It is simple arithmetic. They will go psychotic, they will go neurotic-- and these words dont make much difference Times of crises are of tremendous significance for those daring souls who have never bothered about society's respectability or about what others think about them, but have done only that which they felt right to do; who have in certain way been always rebellious, individualistic. For these people the times of crisis are just golden, because society is disintegrating. Now it cannot condemn anybody--it is itself condemned, cursed. It cannot say to others that they are wrong. It is proving itself wrong; its whole wisdom is proving just foolish, superstitious. The daring individual can use this opportunity to go beyond mind, because now society cannot prevent him, he is free. There has never been so intense a search for spiritual growth. But there has never been so much madness either. Both are happening because the status quo is no longer powerful; it has lost control. Today, the old mind, the old society has lost credibility--and not in one place, but all over the world. There are different kinds of old traditions, but they all have come to a point where so many things are scientifically proved wrong. The most intelligent people are rushing towards the East to find some way, some method. Somewhere somebody must know how to get over this stage, how to go beyond the traditional mind and still remain centered, sane and intelligent. Thousands of people are moving towards the East. It is funny because thousands of people are coming from the East to West to study science, medicine, engineering, electronics, and the people who know all these are going to the East, just to know how to sit silently and do nothing. But it is a beautiful time. The grip of society is lost. But the people who will go beyond mind will create the new man, the new mind. And the most special thing to be remembered about the new mind is that it will never become a tradition, that it will be constantly renewed. The new mind has to become continously new, everyday new, ready to accept any unexpected experience, any unexpected truth...just available, vulnerable. It will be a tremendous excitement, a great ecstacy, a great challenge. So dont think that crisis is bad; it is good. If the new mind can prevail then life can become an enlightenment process. And enlightenment will not be something rare, it will become very ordinary experience.